Most
boys have a tale or two
about
a bully in their life.
Boys
who were not looking
for
trouble but discovered
to
their dismay that
trouble
was looking for them.
Their story was either to
flee
or fight. In my case,
I
never fled or fought.
My
bully didn’t look like a ruffian.
He
was well-dressed, clean-cut, and
a
nice-looking, civilized young man.
But
for some unknown reason,
he
didn’t like me.
He
taunted, threatened, and
terrorized
me for weeks on end
during
Physical Education class in High School.
I
was always taught that
it
took a bigger man to walk away….
I
figured I could only turn the cheek
so
many times, before he would decide
to make good on his threats.
This
taunting never took place
during
P.E. class, only afterward.
If
I had put two and two together
I
would have known he was bluffing
all
along.
On
one fateful day,
my
bully was feeling his oats and
attempted
to act more aggressively
toward
me.
After
weeks of derision,
I
reached my limit,
but
before I could catch myself,
I
agreed to fight him the next day
during P.E.
This
pumped adrenaline into his lips,
and
he puffed up like a banty rooster.
I
chose to ignore his litany of bodily harm
while
I finished getting dressed.
As
I was walking to my next class,
he
followed me down the hallway
with
two of his thug-like buddies,
vocally
abusing me and
publicizing to
all in the hallway
what
he was going to do to me tomorrow.
Embarrassed,
I just ignored him.
Naturally,
this occupied my mind
for the
remainder of the day and night.
I
never told my parents
what
I was going to do;
what I felt like I had to do.
I was in no mood to turn my cheek
any longer.
With
a lump in my throat,
I
walked into the locker room the next day.
My
courage was around my ankles;
but
I had every intention of following
through
with this distasteful
display
of stupidity.
My
bully was waiting for me!
When
I approached him
I
said, “Let’s get this over with.”
Immediately, he informed me that
the
guidance counselor
wanted
to see us both, asap!
In
a strange twist of fate,
we
walked together silently
down
to the counselor’s office.
When
I met one on one with the counselor,
he
reminded me that fighting in school
was
strictly forbidden,
and
if I started a fight
he
would suspend me from school.
I
protested, “Are you kidding me?
He
has been trying his best
for
weeks to get me to fight him!
It
wasn’t me doing the threatening!
Maybe
you need to talk to him!”
The
school counselor didn’t like that last comment;
he
turned a deaf ear to my situation!
He
warned me again that
he
would suspend me if I fought him.
I returned to class perplexed and stupefied.
From
that day forward,
that
bully never bothered me ever again.
Actually,
I was glad it never came to blows,
for
I really didn’t dislike the guy
and
never understood why he felt
like he needed to fight me.
For
the remaining days of high school,
my
former bully and I were neither friends nor foes,
and
kept to ourselves even in passing.
There
was another altercation that surfaced
the
following year with another bully
in a physical education class, where else…?
I
decided not to allow this situation
to
go on for agonizing weeks like the last one,
but
nipped it in the bud
the
moment he started his jawing,
suspension
or not.
Fortunately
for both of us,
he
backed down.
Turning
the other cheek
is
a far nobler thing; I think.
But
in my youthful days,
I
was finally bent on going physical
by
turning the cheek of the bully
rather
than mine.